The Confessions of a Badingerzi: Your Ultimate Guide on How to Spot a Becky
Gay, homosexual, fag, bakla, bading, badaf, badingerzi, bex, becky–we call them by many names. But in this day and age, it gets more and more confusing how to detect a real becky from one who is not. So how do you spot one in a gym, in a classroom, in an office, in a mall, or sometimes even inside your own homes? Hopefully this list post will help you…
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In the Philippines, there are a dozen types of beckies that have now come about–some you may easily identify by the way they look or dress up, while a few others might prove to be more difficult to decipher as they can easily cover it up with their very manly attitude, huge egos, and sometimes, attractive muscles.
As a child of the ’80s and the ’90s, we have been long accustomed to certain stereotypes of how gays should look like and how they should act. Flamboyancy, effeminacy, and flirtatiousness are often associated with a typical bakla. Decades ago, Pinoy homosexuals are often categorized into three main baskets: the Roderick Paulate-type (a Pinoy actor who appears in several gay films; his TV/movie characters are usually the candid, closeted, theatrical-type of gays); a Mama Renee Salud-type (a famous fashion designer; he is usually the epitome of a mamang-type of gay who is very much into beauty & fashion); or a Jojo Veloso-type (a sleazy talent coordinator who got involved in a video scandal while molesting budding models).
GAYDAR ALERT! GAYDAR ALERT! Times have changed and so do these beckies. So here’s our rundown of the different types of Pinoy gays that you might encounter in your daily living.
Note: This is not sweeping generalization, but it will hopefully act as a rough guide on how you can spot a becky within your radar. These are random categorizations/personality types which help us understand the beckies better on how they live and interact with each one of us today. For some people, they can be a combination of the different personalities listed below…
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| Actors Dennis Trillo and Tom Rodriguez in GMA 7’s series “My Husband’s Lover.” Photo from mikeygatal.com. |
The Curious. They’ve had sexual encounters with a fellow male (maybe as a barkada experiment in high school or after getting drunk in a college party). Although it’s hard to classify them as “hardcore” gays, but if they are curious all the time, then they most likely are.
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The Bisexual. Although they are definitely not homosexuals, they also have a strong inclination to get romantically or sexually involved with men (sometimes even more than being involved with women). Hence, we’ve included them in this list. In the ’80s, they are often called Silahis, but now we call them Chickboys (pwede sa chicks, pwede sa boys).
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The Metrosexual. Although some straight men are also metrosexuals, generally, gays tend to be ultra stylish, sophisticated, and vain in more ways than one.
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The Tito Boy. (Note: Boy Abunda is a well-respected TV host and showbiz icon in the Philippines). Also known as the Boy Abunda-Syndrome. They are usually the revolutionists of this generation. They are LGBT ambassadors and affirms the rights of the homosexuals. They are respected in their own fields and they always have opinions on different matters may it be political or social. They are intelligent and are highly educated.
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The Party Animal. Every weekend, they will definitely be in a bar in Malate or in Ortigas hanging out with their herds of friends and fag-hags. But since the gay nightlife scene has already changed in Manila, they will be most likely seen in straight-yet-gay-friendly bars as well, such as Prive, Opus, Gramercy, among others. You might also see them on Instagram having a short weekend getaway in Boracay with their shirts off and holding a beer on one hand.
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The Dota Champ. They don’t want to be classified as gays per se as they see themselves more as unique individuals who love playing video games, who are into the latest gadgets, and who are self-confessed nerds in their own rights.
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The Diva. He likes performing in front of everyone. He sings and dances whether or not he is on stage.
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The Sport Buff. Lean or muscular, he’s your all-around fitness hottie that you will have a crush on. If you are a girl, too bad he is only into guys.
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| Tom Daley is a British Olympian diver and is a self-confessed gay. Photo from huffingtonpost.co.uk. |
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